How to NOT Talk Yourself Out of Things

Have you ever done this? Talked yourself right out of things you’ve been wanting to do?

It’s been a dream of mine to help coach new therapists around self care but boy oh boy did I struggle at times with almost talking myself right out of my dream. And can I tell you how glad I am that I didn’t succeed! I so love coaching and helping new therapists. I couldn’t imagine not doing this. But there was a time that I almost succeeded out of believing in my dream.

Don’t let yourself succeed in talking yourself right out of your dreams. Talking yourself out of things that you want in your life. Things that will help you have the life you envision.

Knowing Your Why

This is so important. Especially when you are having a down day or a down week. Know why you are doing this. What do you want to help offer in people’s lives. What’s your purpose for doing what you do? Help shift your mindset by putting your focus on your why. Especially on those days that are harder than others. Having your why front and center can help you take the steps needed during those harder days.

Goals

Organize your goals. Write them down. Don’t get too stuck on these but instead use them as a guide to help keep you on track. And feel more than free to adjust as needed. But also remember to include your why in this. When you write your goals, keep your why in mind…all of these build on each other so keep each in mind, side by side.

Imposter Syndrome Impacts Us All

Imposter syndrome…we all have it. Please know that! It’s just another fear based thought that pops up and can paralyze us into non-action. But, the main question is…do you believe it?

Since imposter syndrome is universal…we all have some version of it…some version of, “I can’t do that until I get x, y, z training. I can’t do that because_____.” However this part of you speaks to you, the main question is…do you listen, and do you believe it?

What I’d like you to consider is that you don’t have to believe it! Imposter syndrome is common and it usually shows up when we are stretching ourselves. When we are doing something new. When we are following our dreams…there’s an interconnectedness in it, meaning, you’re not alone. And knowing this, my hope is that it helps take the immobilizing fear of action out of it.

It’s just a part. It’s not all of you!

When you stop and think about it, this part is there because you do care so much. You do want to do a great job and serve your clients and family the best you can.

This part isn’t to be feared, what’s needed is to understand it better. And that it’s not you. It’s just a part of you. It’s a thought that a part of you is believing. And that part that believes it needs understanding and nurturing so that it doesn’t run the show and lead you into inaction.

Action Steps When Imposter Syndrome Pops Up

Recognize it’s just a part of you. It’s a thought that pops up that a part of you believes.
See if you can identify and become curious about this part of you. Why is it there? What does it want you to know? What are it’s fears? Chances are this part really needs to be heard by you so by turning inward and toward this part, you can start to become curious and learn more about why it’s there. This will also help create some distance between you and this part of you. Helping you to see that it’s not all of you that believes this, it’s a part of you. An aspect of you. One side of you. You are more than this part and more than this thought.
Take an action. Take one small action whether that’s starting one small task, writing down goals or ideas, sending an email, writing copy for your website, cleaning out your bedroom closet, whatever it is…take one action step even if your imposter syndrome part is making you feel paralyzed, after doing the above two action steps…do this 3rd one also.
Keep reminding yourself, whether you write yourself notes and put them where you can see them often, or you say it quietly to yourself, that you are taking steps toward having the life you dream of. Remember your WHY. Why are you doing this? What’s your purpose. And have that as your focus to help ground you when you need to connect back to it.

Coaching Help

I’d love to help you if you’re needing help. Reach out today to learn more about how we can work together. Coaching is such a wonderful way to help build accountability and also to have someone there to help along the way toward building the life you dream of.

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