I am so excited to be launching this site and getting to know you…I have dedicated this site to all things self care. To help fellow therapists, mamas, and anyone wanting change in their life!
I will be launching a podcast but until I get all of that set up…(and teach myself how to do it!) I wanted to reach out sooner rather than later, so I thought I’d start out blogging.
I wanted to talk about FEAR! This topic is a biggie for me and can mean a lot of things to a lot of people. For me, fear shows up a lot. And it usually surprises me when it does because it doesn’t always look the same. And wouldn’t ya know…when I don’t think it’s there…yep, it’s there.
When I first started my therapy private practice, it definitely showed up. It usually showed up in the most interesting ways. Maybe because at first, I didn’t think I had any fear around starting a practice. But then, surprise! Guess what would happen…
The phone would ring!
And wouldn’t ya know…all kinds of fear showed up. It showed up in my body. In my thoughts. Yep, it was definitely there and definitely a part of me.
And as I’m writing this right now, I’m thinking back on when I started creating all of my business systems and yep, it would creep in then too. Mostly in the form of “What Ifs…” Ah…those can definitely take ya down a road! Good news is…you’re in the driver seat! You can still do it with fear joining in on the ride. Good news is, fear isn’t running the show (or driving the car if you like this metaphor!) You are the one in control. You’re the one driving. Taking one step. You’re the one that “just keeps swimming” to borrow a phrase from one of my favorite movies – Finding Nemo!
That’s brave and courageous! In fact, I think that’s the definition of being brave and courageous!
It’s not the absence of fear but the ability to do it anyway while feeling the fear!
At that point in my life, I was beginning to turn toward this thing called fear and become aware of all the ways it shows up in me.
What I’ve noticed is that for me…it mostly shows up through body sensations and in my thoughts! Oh boy – those thoughts can definitely get ya. But one thing I’ve found that’s so important in my life to help with out of control thoughts is daily exercise for the mind. For me that means figuring out what nourishes my mind each day. It’s like my mental daily hygiene ritual!
For me it involves putting some intentional thought into what I feed my mind. Some examples of what I mean are:
- what support systems do I have that I feel safe confiding in or going to for comfort and support – and knowing where to not go for those things!
- What am I feeding my mind and thoughts each day in the way of what stimuli am I taking in.
For me, I like to listen to podcasts that inspire me. That teach me. That ground me. That motivate and encourage me. I do this most days and I can honestly say it’s made a huge difference in my life. Putting your attention and awareness onto what you feed your mind and thoughts each day is so important…
Launching a New Coaching Business
Back to fear..
Wouldn’t ya know…Now that I’m launching my new coaching business – providing self care guidance – (which I’m so thrilled about!)…guess who decided to visit! Yep, my friend FEAR.
This time though, it was a little paralyzing – to tell you the truth. I remember sitting on my bed, confiding in my husband about my dreams, hopes and fears around starting this new business. Then, we started talking about podcasting. And I just FROZE. I knew this was fear because it had a different feel. I can’t really explain it, but I’ll try…
It was more of a head feel…meaning, thoughts were swirling in my head. So much so that I remember sitting on our bed with my head in my hands thinking…what am I doing? I can’t do this? Do I know enough?
That was a hard night…but what I realized was the fear was around making myself bigger not smaller! In a few words…putting myself out there. Being more vulnerable!
Thank goodness my husband is such a loving and compassionate man. He supported and encouraged me through those paralyzing fear thoughts. And, the next day, I woke up and took one small step forward.
One small step forward with believing in myself. One small step forward in launching what I hope can help just one person that’s struggling and looking for support. One small step toward building a community of support and guidance to help you navigate through the hard patches – hand in hand – not alone!
That’s what gave me the courage to take a step (arm and arm with my fear right there next to me). The courage to take a step toward what I hope will be an awesome journey for all of us! An awesome journey toward helping you shine even brighter than you do. To take some time to nurture and care for you!
I hope you enjoy this site and find it helpful.
P.S., I’d love to hear from you…this site is for you so please let me know what you’re needing and wanting to read and or listen to on a podcast episode so I can create content that speaks to you.